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Salam alaykum. I am a Muslim man that was mostly unaware of the rule about not plucking your eyebrows. Sometimes i remove the hairs between each eyebrow in order to prevent a unibrow. Is this also disallowed? Thank you.

Asked by Anonymous

Wa alaykum salaam

It’s agreed by all that the bridge of the eyebrows/between the two eyebrows is not considered a part of the eyebrows and it’s permissible to pluck there for both men and women.

In fact not many people know that plucking the eyebrow itself is not absolutely prohibited and under certain guidelines they can be plucked. Generally people often read the hadith and take it very literally which is what causes the issues because on the other hand the jurists have deduced from it rulings much different from what is apparent to people who lack the required skills of understating the depth of a hadith. Ibn Abidin in Radd al-Muhtar have guidelines for when it’s permissible and how to do it and recently I found that Ibn Qudamah also held a similar view

Anon that’s just messaged me not wanting the message published, please do message me off anon we can talk about it and clear up some misunderstandings and remove any doubts you may have

Salaam, I'm the one who asked about how one is cursed. I was not trying to sound arrogant and I definitely don't think low of God! I was adding humor at the end, but my question was serious. I want to know cursed HOW. Like, cursed with what, and for how long? I am asking a serious question for you to help me define "cursed." Sorry, I reached the character limit so I couldn't elaborate.

Asked by Anonymous

Wa alaykum salaam

Well in that case I apologise for assuming but it did honestly come across like that. Perhaps next time you want to ask a serious question you don’t mix it with humour like that.
When Allah curses a person it’s understood that a portion of the mercy Allah bestows upon them is taken away so maybe they’ll have less blessings in their life etc and other part if it is that Allah disgraces them for their negligence until they seek repentance. At the end of it all though how Allah wishes, if he wishes, to curse a person is up to Him and He knows best

"Allah has cursed the one who..." Cursed how? If God is so merciful, why is He cursing people for small things? Like, "sorry I know you dedicated your life to helping others, but there was that time you plucked your eyebrows so damn you to hell bye"

Asked by Anonymous

The fundamental issue here is the question itself as is the case with most questions relating to theodicy. When somebody asks a question they’re setting parameters for you to answer within and sometimes the entire logic or premise is wrong and this is one of those cases so excuse me if I don’t give you a direct answer because im going to deconstruct it’s problematic nature first. Just because Allah punishes a person does that now make Him not the Most Merciful? Of course not and that lacks any rational understanding, Allah has 99 names and along with being the Most Merciful He is also The Punisher or The Avenger and when He chooses to apply one of His divine attributes it does not mean that the others no longer exist. Take for example when a child misbehaves and it’s mother rebukes and reprimands it, that doesn’t mean that she now has no love and mercy for her child.

The problem is that you’ve not understood the concept of a God, you’re thinking of Him with the same emotions and perceptions of that of a human and He is far beyond that. Sorry if i’ve assumed wrong from your tone but I think this is why your sarcasm filled question is also reeking with arrogance and why you think so low of Him. He’s the master of the worlds and you have to accept that He is our master and we are His slaves and that everything in this world has a reason and a wisdom so if we disobey then He can enact a punishment upon us. However look at what Allah says in the opening of the Qur’an that He is a praiseworthy master, a merciful master and it’s this mercy you’re missing.

"What can Allah gain by punishing you…" (Qur’an 4:174) this is Allah telling you He doesn’t want to punish you.
Allah says; “My mercy prevails over my wrath” (Bukhari) and in fact any mercy you and I show is in itself from Him so we need to get away from this idea of “ive got one up over God because of xyz” because the reality is that Allah is not so low that He would send you to hell for small things, it will be difficult to go to hell unless you were actually trying to go there that’s the extent of Allahs mercy. If Allah is telling you to stay away from something, consider how merciful He is to you before you throw a tiff about it no matter how small you think it is.

Salam. What advice would you give to a sister who is a 22 year old hijabi and who has never been involved in anything haram (relationship wise). However she has never even been given a second glance by a man and whilst her friends are all settling down or in relationships, she feels like she would never find someone. This is an insecurity which she tries to act like she doesn't care about but yet it's something that she thinks about all the time.

Asked by Anonymous

Wa alaykum salaam

I would say she shouldn’t worry about it at all, being 22 and single is nothing to worry or feel insecure about because she has her whole life ahead of her for marriage. I’d also advise her to stop measuring her life and achievements up with that of people around her, her life has it’s own course and it’s milestones will take their places when it’s right for her; an event taking place in one persons life at one time may not necessarily be the right time for another person since we are all so different.

I would say that she should seek to make the most of her time and life seeking to better herself and achieve other things because the worth of her life isn’t determined by how early she can attain a spouse, and being hung up about it only stunts a persons progress and success. Her opportunities in life will come to her in their due time, the opportunity of marriage is not here but perhaps the opportunity of something greater is here and she risks missing out on that because her mind is attached to something not in her hands right now. Achieve things for yourself and interests from men of the same value will come, then im pretty sure she’ll look back at this and feel silly that she ever felt this way.

Salaam. What does it mean when it says that Abu Hanifa wasn't a 'client'

Asked by Anonymous

Wa alaykum salaam

I would assume it refers to him as not being a dependant or subject of anyone, that’s most probably the meaning in a more archaic form of English. I say this due to the fact that he was a wealthy merchant and the rulers of the time didn’t take a liking to him because he couldn’t be bought, that could be the reason why he was described in such a way but I can’t be sure unless I see exactly what you’re referring to

How peculiar is it that we exert ourselves in amassing material outwardly objects in order to remedy a non-tangible inwardly sickness

3. And I'm turning into a monster as I get angry really quickly. I lose my cool with my parents and have turned really bossy because I have to do everything. I mean I'm 21 and I'm at the age where my parents should be telling me off etc but I have to tell my parents off all the time for having no control and not being responsible. I hate being at home and I feel really depressed but can't talk to anyone since everyone has a lot to deal with. Sorry this is so long

Asked by Anonymous

I think this was probably more of a rant than anything lol which is fine so I can’t think of what I could really say to you since this is basically the circumstance you’re in and you’re really going to have to compose yourself for the better of your family. Believe me I know your situation well, im 21 myself with parents that don’t have the same energy and will that they used to and so the responsibility of my younger siblings falls on me a lot.

Try sitting with your parents and explaining to them how you’re feeling and express that you need their help and support, im sure they’d be willing to do more but sometimes when somebody is doing so much we don’t realise it until it’s pointed out and then we engage ourselves. Don’t let the situation at home wind you up, be gentle but also be assertive and put measures in place that will be less straining upon yourself yet get your siblings to comply. Get them just as involved in household responsibilities and hopefully it’ll help them mature. Sometimes an older sibling has to be like a parent, that’s just how it is. Im sorry this is probably terrible advice for you but ive learnt to find my way and insha’Allah you will too eventually

(Pt 5) i dont know what to say to my mom. Shes made up her mind to think the way she does and I feel like my dad will eventually end up leaving. What do I do?

Asked by Anonymous

I think you should try and get some other family members involved and ask them to initially mediate between your parents so that they can come to an understanding and then reconstruct their relationship. It seems that your mother is suffering from some major trust issues and perhaps she’d respond better to an older relative reassuring her that wrong about your father.

Most importantly though you should ask your dad himself to reassure her, to spend more time with her etc. I understand that he doesn’t go out much but just being home isn’t good enough; he should spend his time showing her that he loves her and there’s nothing to worry about. Communication is very important, they need to talk it out and they need to talk a lot to strengthen that trust between them; however you can get them to do that you should try. Tell your parents to be consistent in their daily adhkaar, nothing makes shaytan happier than the breaking of a marriage and by the remembrance of Allah protection is gained from the mischief of the shayateen.

Assalamu walaikum. When are you going to answer the rest of your asks?

Asked by Anonymous

Wa alaykum salaam probably later tonight or tomorrow insha’Allah, just remind me which is yours and i’ll answer it first

If I got it right, hijab is there for covering the beauty of a woman but what if a woman is ugly or old, why does she need a hijab then?

Asked by Anonymous

Concealment of beauty is one of the possible wisdoms behind why Allah commanded the observation of hijab but it isn’t necessarily the only reason and some people have deduced other possibilities alongside that. As for your statement regarding an ugly woman, who judges whether a woman is ugly or not since the perception of beauty is so subjective? What you find attractive may not be so for somebody else and vice versa so that part of the question is completely baseless.

As for the second part, elderly women past the age of childbearing have some leniency on how they can cover themselves in terms of the jilbab (outer cover) but the hair remains part of nakedness (awra) so it still has to be covered. This ties in with what I said above about it not all being about concealment of beauty, there can be several wisdoms behind a command and not every wisdom is completely applicable in every scenario

Salam! I honestly love you. I'm currently taking a religious course, to improve my overall understanding of muslim civilization as well as Islam. Coming back to your blog and reading it, gives me comfort, so please continue to spread your knowledge and wisdom. Thank you! :)

Asked by Anonymous

Wa alaykum salaam

Im so glad that my blog gives you comfort, it means a lot to me that what I share is benefiting somebody somewhere. Im also delighted to hear that you’re on an Islamic course, may Allah make it fruitful for you. I really don’t have any knowledge or wisdom of my own but I will keep sharing what I learn. Thank you and all the best

fatima-thinks:

If you’ve lost your way in this world, feel heavy hearted and are at your worst, return to Him. Return to Him a thousand times over even after you have repeatedly sinned and He will welcome you with open arms and make sujood feel like home again.

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